We used to be friends 

but my ex-husband's 

new lover has turned 

him against me

I was good friends with him up until he met this woman but now – for some unknown reason – she has sent me nasty emails and turned him against me

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Dear Coleen

I’ve been separated from my husband for seven years and he recently started divorce proceedings because he has become engaged to a woman he met a few months ago.

I’m happy to go ahead with it and actually asked him for a divorce years ago, but he refused.

I was good friends with him up until he met this woman but now – for some unknown reason – she has sent me nasty emails and turned him against me.

And a best friend who I’ve known for 40 years socialises with the two of them and I feel that she should be supporting me.

I don’t want to lose her friendship.

What can I do?

Coleen says

This new woman is clearly feeling jealous and threatened and she doesn’t want your ex being friends with you.

He’s in the throes of a passionate new affair, so he’ll agree to anything.

If I were you, I’d give him the divorce, let him go and don’t look back. After all, it’s what you’ve wanted for years.

However, I would make it clear to him that you don’t want any more unpleasant emails from his girlfriend.

As far as your friend goes, it’s tricky if she’s been friends with both of you.

When I got divorced I lost mates who I considered best friends at the time.

Sadly, when couples separate, it’s not just the man and woman involved who split up – you inevitably end up losing touch with lots of people.

Don’t put pressure on your friend to take sides, that’s a sure way to lose her friendship. And agree not to discuss your ex when you’re together.

Maybe once things have settled down you can be friends with your ex again, too.

But, for now, walk away with your head held high. Don’t appear bothered, don’t engage in nasty email exchanges.

Be the bigger person.

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