When he comes over, he just sits in front of the telly and moans about his job or goes and gets a new tattoo. He didn’t turn up for our son’s first injections and tried to give me money to make up for it
Dear Coleen
I had a baby 12 weeks ago, but I split up with my son’s father when I was pregnant.
When I found out we were having a boy he completely changed and became really controlling, telling me what our son’s name would be, what sports he would play and what team he’d support. I didn’t have a say in anything.
The birth didn’t go to plan – the heartbeat dropped and I had an emergency C-section, which caused complications and I was very ill for a week.
It was scary, but thankfully my son and I made a full recovery. My ex was great while I was in hospital, but as soon as he was told I was coming home, he started being snide, commenting on how I had no bum and my boobs had shrunk.
Since then, he’s let us down a lot – when he comes over, he just sits in front of the telly and moans about his job or goes and gets a new tattoo. He didn’t turn up for our son’s first injections and tried to give me money to make up for it.
I was so angry I slammed the door in his face. I’ve talked to him many times about being there for his son and that it means more than just giving us a bit of money, but he just doesn’t get it. He’s not affectionate to our son and never picks him up or kisses him, but he makes me feel like a bad mother. I don’t know what to do any more.