Dated Him for Years And He Married Someone Else?

             Dated Him for Years And He Married Someone Else?

After being in a relationship with a guy for years he married someone else! Behind your back! Many ladies don't discuss this but it happens more often than you might think. A guy and a girl date for several years only for her to stumble upon his wedding invitation or his face (and the face of his bride) on a wedding souvenir.

 Yes he is set to wed or already wedded some girl you never even knew existed. Suddenly you know why his calls have been few and far between, that's why he didn't come back to apologise after that slight misunderstanding...it all makes sense. Then what happens next? You cry yourself to sleep and wonder if you weren't pretty enough, smart enough or caring enough. This introspection can be valuable but often it only leads to a downward spiral of self pity, further hate for mankind and then a numbness! I can tell you for free - Human beings are unpredictable.

But an old adage says "If you close your eyes because you do not want to see bad people, a good person will pass while your eyes are closed" Many times, when things go wrong or difficulties come, instead of seeing our distress as a blessing, we view it as trouble and become angry. In doing this we run the risk of missing what God has for us to learn.

Was God trying to get your attention all along? Did you miss the signs? Instead of taking time to pray and seek God about the matter, we run to others in an effort to validate our feelings or solve the situation (need I mention all the time you spend cursing this fellow in your heart?) God wants us to learn how to trust Him completely. Total trust in God and his omnipotence and omniscience help you see that all things work together for those who love God and are called according to his purpose. Just because something bad happens does not mean we have done something wrong or human race is evil.

 Maybe, God simply wants to teach us how to listen for the Holy Spirits guidance and trust in his will. Life is crazy sometimes, and unpleasant things happen. It's hard to trust, it's hard to love, it might be hard to just move on. There are so many men and women who have gone through bad experiences that have led them to say "All men are the same." Are they? With 7.068 billion people on planet earth and nine million bicycles in Beijing so don't let one person, or a few persons make you give up on humanity. Just as there is a season set aside for blessing, there will be times when we face difficulty and unhappiness.

 We may love the sunny days, but often it is in the hard times, that we grow stronger in our faith and more focused on the Lord and His will for us through this we have a chance to mature and the experience becomes enriching. - See more